When I went through my own DNA Discovery, I searched desperately for a guide — a map that could tell me what was coming next, and how to take care of myself through every stage. It didn't exist. So I created one so you could have an understanding of what is in-front of you.

The Seven Milestones or stages

Each Milestone includes guidance, grounding tools, and a compassionate approach for navigating that stage of your journey. Interactive video modules for each Milestone are available inside the TruthSeeker® Private Community.

Stage 1  Deciding to Take a DNA Test

Making the decision to explore your genetic origins is the first act of courage.

Before you test, I encourage you to choose what I call a DNA Buddy — someone unattached to your outcome, probably not related to you, someone who will take your call and simply be your rock. If you don't have that person yet, reach out to me and I will pair you with someone in our community. You never have to do this alone.

Stage 2  Receiving Alarming or Unexpected Results

Call your DNA Buddy first. Then — and I mean this with all my heart — do nothing. This has likely been a secret your entire lifetime. It will keep a few more days. This moment belongs to you. Feel your feelings. Write them down. Scream into a pillow. Cry. And then: eat, sleep, walk, breathe. Your nervous system and your immunity need you right now. Grounding meditations, Tapping, and breathing tools are available inside the community whenever you are ready.

Stage 3  Sharing Your News: Navigating Conversations with Family and Friends

Before you tell anyone, get clear on your own WHY. What do you need from this conversation? What are your boundaries? I will help you find the language, rehearse the outcomes, and protect your heart going in. You are the Zero Patient — the person who received this information. You did not cause this. You are not responsible for anyone else's reaction. And you have every right to set a boundary, including hanging up the phone. I call you both the Zero Patient and the TruthSeeker® — and I believe you are the hero of your own story.

Stage 4  Identity Level Trauma® — Who Am I Now?

Identity Level Trauma® is a term I coined and own to describe what happens when your sense of self is shaken without your consent. A decision was made that affects you, but was not about you. That is one of the hardest pieces of this journey. Here we work through journaling, NLP practices, mirror work, guided meditation, and deep self-compassion exercises to help you remember: you are not defined by your genetics. Your identity is yours to define. And I want to help you dream into who you want to become.

Stage 5  My New Normal — Who Am I in This Family? Who Am I as Me?

You are in a new place, and your old story may no longer fit. That is okay. I encourage you: do not make any major life decisions for at least a year. Go slowly. Let your new story come into view gradually. We will work together to explore what feels most authentic, rebuild or redefine your relationships from a place of strength, and build a chosen family if needed. The question to ask at every turn: does this serve my highest and best good?

Stage 6  Healing — Releasing Shame and Guilt from Your Discovery

You did nothing wrong. The shame of being born into a secret is not yours to carry. Neither is the guilt from the fallout. Here we do the deep work: free-writing, forgiveness practices, nervous system repair, sleep, nutrition, community, and gentle ceremony. I use a beautiful practice of finding a small stone for each changed relationship, labeling it, carrying it until you feel ready to set it down, and eventually burying it with intention. Healing is not linear. We go at your pace, always.

Stage 7  Embracing Your Narrative — Redefining and Empowering Your Future

This is where you pick up the pen and write what comes next. Your DNA Discovery is a part of your story — it is not the entirety of it. In this Milestone, we celebrate who you have become, create a new life path aligned with your truest self, and explore how you might use your experience to empower others. You are a limitless TruthSeeker®. You are unwritten. And your new chapter is waiting.